Over a year ago, I was talking to a friend named Wain, and we had been talking about what we had been working on at that point in our life. I think he was working on a couple of videos and I could have been putting a book together.
It was during this time that he went a little bit deeper and was curious to know how I perceived myself. So, when I stated that I’d soon be releasing the book, he wasn’t pleased to just give me positive feedback and then to proceed; he wanted to see what was going on for me.
A Big Difference
I was surprised by this as I was used to people giving me positive feedback once I talked about something like this. However, Wain, on the other hand, is not someone who has the inclination to say things that a lot of other people say.
I thought about what he said and it became clear that I didn’t have an empowering view of myself.
An Important Question
In other words, I had been so focused on what I wanted to achieve it caused me to be unaware of why I wanted to achieve it.
Within this context, the quality of the work that I produced was just a part of it; the other part was seeing myself as someone who produced quality work.
A Big Effect
How I saw myself would have an effect on how I presented my work, what I did with it and even the energy which was behind it. Consequently, if this part of the equation wasn’t right, I would only be able to get up to now.
Part of me would be on board, but another part of me wouldn’t be going in exactly the exact same direction. What I came to see was that each part of me wasn’t going in the same direction; I was sabotaging myself.
Shinning the Light
After being asked this question by Wain, I could have ended up getting defensive. The trouble is that if this had taken place, it would have stopped me from being able to reflect on what he asked me.
As a consequence of this, my mind would have been shut and it wouldn’t have been possible for me to grow. I knew that he was coming from the right place and I was open-minded, so fortunately this did not happen.
This is just one of the many powerful questions which Wain has asked me over the years; his head is like a guided missile. The difference is that he’s not interested in destroying buildings; he is interested in destroying false beliefs and outlooks.